No one likes to be embarrassed in public, that's just the facts. Not only does a public spectacle bring you down, if you have a family it can bring them down along with you. Some of the biggest public spectacles have happened around political figures. Of course, they are public people, after all. Clinton, Spitzer. Not good for them. Not good for the family, and not so good for us on the sidelines watching. Just an overall bummer.
I wasn't up on the Letterman thing when it broke. I had my head in a cloud of another sort that will remain nameless, but when I found out, honestly, I was like, who cares? Sorry. He isn't running the country, he's not a spiritual leader, he's not a teacher. The guy is a performer, a comedian. Yes, he does appear on our TV screens most nights, but again, so what? If he wants to wreck his own marriage and image, that's his business. Of course, it's also the business of the network who could see advertisers bolt.
I don't hold celebrities as examples and/or holders of a specific moral code. Their foibles and failings are their own. They are "artists" and interpreters and just people. Would I like to be married to someone like Dave? No. Would I like him to be a friend I can rely on? No. Doesn't seem to be the trustworthy type. Am I going to spend anymore time considering his silliness? No. He's got his wife and the network to answer to. Oh, and himself. That little voice inside that might want to rethink some life strategies. In the end, that's the toughest critic of all.
We've all heard it, a man can yell in business and be perceived as strong but if a woman raises her voice she's just a bitch. If you haven't heard that I'm surprised. I've worked for a TON of screamers in my day, some of them legendary, all of them women. I, myself, have been known to raise the 'ol timbers. And I can admit, it's NEVER a good thing and really never gets you anywhere. Stress can make you lose it or fear, which is linked to stress, and I suffer from both on occasion (who running their own business doesn't?).
So, when I saw Serena Williams called out on her behavior at the US Open, I was surprised. Not so much for HER outburst but for the short memory of the judges and pundits (whom I'm sure have NEVER raised their voice in consternation over what they felt was an unfair situation). Hmmm, let's see, wasn't there a loud mouthed tennis pro several years ago that ranted and raved on the court? Hmmm, isn't he making a good living spoofing his bad 'ol self on a National Car Rental commercial? I think so, but maybe I'm wrong (not). Don't worry Serena, we'll forget this incident as we always do and then you can have a laugh about it on Letterman. Not sure if there is a double standard here (maybe not), but if there are two things I do know it's this: screaming is not good for your image and we (the collective we) tend to have short memories - not always, but most of the time. And that's good for those of us who mess up on a regular basis (me). And for those of us who only make a mess of things once in a while. Phew!